Three weeks from now, I’m turning 25. Cliche as it sounds, it feels like just yesterday when I don’t want to grow up yet and now I actually like growing up.
It wasn’t an easy process because there’s no formula or rules to follow. You just have to continue to live and grow up. Where do we even get an idea how to grow up?
If I were to go back in time to talk to my younger self, here are a few things I’d like to tell her.
It’s okay to lose friendships.
You’re only 12. You still have a long way to go. You’ll meet a lot of people and build good friendships. Don’t waste your time and effort with people who don’t deserve it. Ignore the negative things they say. Eventually, you’ll forgive them.
I’m telling you, you’re better than them. And in 10 years, you’ll do much way better.
Take risks. If it worked, then good. If not, learn from it.
Yes, transfer to another school and shift to another course. It was a brave decision but understand that not everything will turn out great.
That new school is not for you. You’re destined to be a Thomasian. I’m glad you decided to go back to UST. But that new course, it will be great. I mean, it won’t be easy but you’ll be fine. Don’t worry, you made the right choice.
You’re 16 and you think it is the biggest risk you’ve ever took. 10 years later, I can say that it is not anymore (yes, you are going to take more risks) but it is one of the best decisions you have ever made.
Your family will always be there to support you, no matter what.
When you think Papa doesn’t care about you, think again. You’re his eldest child and his only girl so he’s just protecting you. Visiting you in the dorm, and taking you home every week is more than just a responsibility to him. He wants you to be safe.
Have more bonding moments with mama. Go to a salon for your footspa+pedi sessions or get a haircut and hair treatment. Talk to her and open up to her. She’s your number one fan and supporter.
I know you’re 18 now, living a semi-independent life, but believe me you can’t do in on your own. At the end of the day, you’ll always find yourself wanting to come home more often.
Do what you love and love what you do.
Designing your blog is one of the reasons why you started one. You even shifted to BS IT thinking you’ll do better with webdesigning but then you’ll get disappointed that it is only a small part of the curriculum. It’s okay, learn on your own. :)
Looking at your themes, I must say they look bad! Haha. You’re 20 and just starting, so that’s acceptable. Don’t stop learning and practicing. You dream of becoming a webdesigner? You’ll have it. But can we call it “front-end developer” instead? Hehe
Don’t look down on yourself telling you don’t have any skills. Don’t be afraid you’ll be nowhere after you graduate. You’ll be greater than what you’ve thought you would be.
Get out of your comfort zone.
You’re 23 and starting to experience this so-called quarter-life crisis.
It will pass and soon you’ll be surprised that you’ll be all contented and satisfied with what you have. How? Just do beyond what you thought is your limitation.
Explore and experiment. Do not contain yourself in the four corners of the office. Spend your weekends back home or somewhere you’re not familiar of and discover new things about yourself. (Example: You’re scared of the life down under, but you can jump off a waterfall that is approximately 65-ft high, with no hesitations.)
I’m sure you’re still having second thoughts but I know soon, you’ll gain that courage. :)
Looking back, I’ve realized how much I’ve been through – decisions, risks, mistakes, struggles – but somehow, I made it up to where I am now. If not for the rough road I’ve taken, I wouldn’t be the person I’ve become.
I know I still have a long way to go but I’m sure I can do way better than who I am right now. The only competitor I have is myself from the yesterday and I will do my best to be greater than her.
It’s your turn!
- What is the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
- How would you describe your younger self?
- What are the things that you’d like to tell yourself?